Are you the person who likes to invite or do you prefer to be invited? This is something I have really never thought
much about until last night. Two of my
close girlfriends and I met for coffee.
Ahhh, I love coffee night with friends.
Starbucks, 8:30pm, cup of coffee that is my kind of night out! J
Of course, as soon as we meet it is as if you here the
barista say, “On your mark, get set, go.”
We only get to meet up about once a month, so there is a lot of catching
up to do. Plus, Starbucks closes at 10pm
that only leaves 90 minutes for three women to share. It is nonstop talking and only minor breaks
to breath and take a sip. We always get
reminded when they are about to close and then have to continue our
conversation in the parking lot or walking around at the near by Kohl’s (they
are open until 11pm). Yep, I know…we walk on the wild side! J
Anyway, we started a conversation about inviting people to
our homes or letting the kids have friends over. I mentioned that I really need to be better
about allowing my kids to have friends over.
Both of my friends love to extend invitations and have people over to
their homes on a regular basis. I on the other
hand, really don’t invite people over unless it is a holiday or birthday.
Don’t get me wrong, it is not that I don’t want to open our home to
other people; I just worry about what the other person will think. I don’t want them to feel like they “have” to
say yes or that they will feel pressured to come over. Plus, I don’t want to interrupt other
people’s family time. My husband works
every Saturday, so our only family day is Sunday, which also involves church
and church related activities. In my
mind, most other families spend Saturdays together.
So, I don’t want to call and interrupt that time when both parents are
home. I know... I am aware that I tend
to over think things. J
So I decided last night that this is an area I need
improvement. I am really going to begin
making an effort towards becoming more of the person who does the
inviting. What I found interesting is
that one of my friends mentioned that since she usually does the inviting she
feels she is never invited. Isn’t that
interesting? I would have never thought about that. My other girlfriend, who I consider to be one of the most
social people I know, joked that she just always invites herself to my
house. Which I love! She does the work for me and there is no rejection! PERFECT! J
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